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This post was contributed by a community member. The views expressed here are the author's own. Most married couples experience a bit of disconnect throughout the duration of their relationship—it is normal. What is abnormal and detrimental is when the occasional feeling of two ships passing in the night feels more like two ships docked in two entirely different oceans! Sadly, it appears to be happening more and more in our child-centered culture. Couples have, somehow, forgotten that we were wives and husbands before we became mothers and fathers!
Therefore our attention needs to be allocated as such. To be fair, society's level of child-focused parenting expectations are much to blame. The overload of parenting advice certainly does not alleviate any guilt from parents who do make a conscious effort to put their marriage first. Though it is not notated how many of these marriages involved children, Annette Day, Ph. D shared the following opinion to similar statistics. Being raised in a divorced dynamic, I am extremely attuned to the tone of my marriage and vow to never find myself "living with a stranger.
To best nurture the ever-changing needs of children or relationshipI assess and adapt as I see fit. Is everyday marital bliss? Of course not! Are there days I long for my youthful independence? Heck yeah! Would I change anything about my life? Not a thing! Bottom line is that it's easy to get lazy in the relationship department after you get married.
Dating seems unnecessary and almost silly, "You already have each other, right? Why do you still need to go through all that effort? Be it my childhood or the fact that I got married when I was 24, I refuse to accept that romance is now eliminated from the equation, hence, our continued "dating.
In fact, we celebrated our 14th year of dating anniversary this weekend with a night away, child-free thanks to a "child-swap" arrangement with a great friend! It may seem like an odd anniversary to celebrate, but dating your spouse is surely something to celebrate. It takes effort and energy to get out of the house, not only together but childless as well. Above all, remember that the goal of date night is to hang on to, or recapture, the spirit of spending time together prior to being engulfed in the chaotic world known as parenthood.
The added bonus of date night is the positive role modeling of a healthy relationship for your children!
The views expressed in this post are the author's own. Want to post on Patch? Register for a user. Community Corner Take Time for a Date Night Dating your spouse—staying connected as a couple with today's hectic lifestyles. Christine IacobucciNeighbor. Find out what's happening in Easton with free, real-time updates from Patch. Let's go! Tim Gustafson sums up dating your spouse in his book The ABCs of Marriage ,: "The date night helps you keep common interests in your relationship through the years, not just being dependent upon children's activities, your job or your friends…it is a great investment in your marriage…the commitment of time which says they your spouse is important.
All around a win-win! So what are you waiting for? Check out some of these tips and plan already… Dating Do's… Make a pact that conversations about the kids and the minutia of the day are off limits. Keep it conversational and up-beat; date nights should be relaxing and not at all like twenty questions!
Remember to laugh, smile and, really, look at each other. Reminisce Funniest moment of your wedding day? First date, were you nervous or was he awkward? Cherished "pre-kid" moments? Inexpensive date nights… Have a picnic Go to a playground and go on the swings Go to the park—hike, fly a kite, lay on a blanket and look at the clouds Go out to breakfast much cheaper than dinner and you aren't nearly as tired Get ice cream Go to hot spots from before you got married and reminisce of younger days there Get away—depending on your means.
Take advantage of off season and business hotels weekend discounts. Go for an evening swim String white Christmas lights on your deck, eat dessert for dinner and listen to the summer concert of crickets. Borrow an outdoor projector, hang a white sheet and enjoy your very own drive-in. Don't forget the popcorn and candy, Dollar Tree and Target have great re-usable popcorn containers and movie size candy Star-gaze together. Remember the Orion project from high school?
Can you still identify it? Order take-out; look through your old scrapbooks, wedding album, honeymoon photos. Watch the most romantic movie of all time- your wedding video! Thank Reply Share. The rules of replying: Be respectful. This is a space for friendly local discussions. No racist, discriminatory, vulgar or threatening language will be tolerated. Be transparent.
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