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When I think about my childhood, some of my earliest memories are lying on my living room floor watching Michael Jackson's Moonwalker film over and over, and Sundays on the way to my grandparents' house, bellowing the lyrics to "Remember the Time" from the backseat of my Dad's cherry red Jeep. And then there are all the gatherings, from weddings to birthdays, where the only songs that would get everyone in my mixed, multicultural family on the dance floor to attempt their best moonwalks were "Billie Jean" and "Thriller.
So when I heard about the new two-night HBO documentary Leaving Neverland —and the fact that Oprah was going to be interviewing Wade Robson and James Safechuck, the two men in the film who accuse Jackson of sexually abusing them as children — I had a similar reaction to the rest of the world: Disbelief. At the beginning, Oprah asked both men if they were prepared to "get it" for speaking out about Jackson's alleged crimes.
She was referencing the naysayers on social media who were already—before even watching the two-part documentary—discrediting Robson and Safechuck, calling them liars because neither of them had spoken up when they were younger about what they say happened to them. Oprah also mentioned the criticisms she h ad been receiving on social media, with commenters asking why she would do this interview when Jackson can't defend himself—and also accusing her of "trying to bring the Black man down. I'm ashamed to admit it in writing, but, here goes: I was one of those critics.
Of course, the idea that Michael Jackson may have been not just an abuser, but a pedophile, was not new to me or the rest of the world before news broke about the upcoming Leaving Neverlandwhich documentary filmmaker Reed began production on last year.
After all, much of my aforementioned childhood also included walking by the TV and seeing headlines with accusations against my favorite pop star, first in and later, a much-publicized trial in Still, even as a grown, college educated, opinionated adult, until just two days ago, I was one of those Michael Jackson defenders.
I had go-to lines about being able to separate the art from the man; about how Jackson was certainly an oddball with an affinity for children because of his own troubled upbringing, but that didn't make him a criminal; about how there was never any real proof that he had abused children. Inafter year-old Jordan Chandler and his father accused Jackson of child sexual abusea police investigation was inconclusive, and Jackson settled with the family out of court.
And a 14 week trial in found Jackson not guilty of charges that he had molested another year-old boy, Gavin Arvizo.
I shared the same mindset of many of the folks Oprah was talking about. Not only was I questioning why our culture would want to bring down a man who isn't alive to protect himself, but I, too, was suspicious that these accusers were coming out nowafter publicly defending Jackson when he was alive. Kelly's recent indictment for 10 counts of aggravated criminal sexual abuse. I should note that for the record, Leaving Neverland was in production long before Surviving R.
Kelly aired. And to be completely honest, I also had a little bit of that "let's not bring the Black man down" in my own mentality. In the Black community, many of us feel an inherent need to "protect our own. But one reason that tends to happen in particular is the fact that in this country, Black people are at a disadvantage when it comes to career success.
So as a community, when we do see our people succeed, we want to cheer them on. But that becomes problematic when sometimes, that means we turn a blind eye to their mistakes, or, in this case and the cases of other public figures like Kelly, O.
Simpson, and Bill Cosby crimes. I can't even begin to summarize here everything that happens in those four hours, but if there is one message I can share: It is a must-watch —especially if you are a Michael Jackson fan. At the heart of this film are the stories of Robson and Safechuck, who—with appearances from their mothers, wives and siblings—discuss how they were discovered and mentored by Jackson from the ages of 6 and 9, respectively.
Robson and his mother moved from Australia to work with Jackson, and ashe starred in music videos like "Black or White" and "Jam," gigs that he says led to spending more and more time with Jackson, including sleepovers at Jackson's Neverland ranch. Similarly, Safechuck recalls meeting Jackson while filming a Pepsi commercial; they developed a similar working relationship that morphed into sleepovers at the ranch. Throughout the film, we hear from both men in, yes, graphic, explicit detail about exactly what they say transpired between each of them and Jackson—and across four hours, we hear why neither of them came forward about what purportedly happened to them until adulthood.
While never forgetting any of the sexual details that happened between us, but having no understanding that it was abuse And Michael was God to me. With all of the pieces and details put together chronologically across four hours, Leaving Neverland brings to life a man who groomed his victims psychologically into simultaneously loving him and fearing him so steadfastly that they never accepted that they were abused themselves—much less wanted to tell anyone about it.
And let's not forget that this wasn't just any man who was playing psychological tricks on pre-pubescent minds—this was a global superstar, perhaps the most well-known name on the entire planet. The hurt was so ingrained in each of these men, in fact, that neither of them were willing—or able—to accept what had happened to them until they had sons of their own. The hurt was so ingrained that neither were able to accept what happened to them until they had sons of their own.
By the end of the documentary, I felt an unexpected emotion: numbness. I sat in my seat struggling with how to fit together the harrowing depiction of a sick man I had just witnessed with the icon who had shaped so much of my life.
And then Oprah began her interview by saying:. It is much bigger than any one person. This is a moment in time that allows us to see this societal corruption that's like a scourge on humanity. And it's happening right now. It's happening in families—we know it's happening in churches, and in schools, and sports teams everywhere. So if it gets you, our audience, to see how it happens, then some good would have come of it. That is when everything clicked for me—when I had what Oprah likes to call an "aha moment.
It is bigger than Michael Jackson's fans, bigger than me defending the soundtrack to my childhood. Instead, it is about the millions of people in this world who never got to have hood because of the sexual abuse they experienced before their young brains were even developed enough to know what was occurring. It's about the fact that every 11 minutes in this countrychild protective services substantiates or finds evidence for a claim of child sex abuse—and that's just the ones we know about.
Leaving Neverland is about the children—and adults—who are silenced by people like me who are quick to defend accusers simply because of their status—or the people who choose to live in silence because they are afraid of exactly that happening. Oprah, who referenced her own experiences with sexual abuse as during the interview, added that when you're as young as Robson and Safechuck were when they allege that Jackson abused them—7 and 10—you "don't have the language to explain what is happening to you.
In 25 years of the Oprah Show, I taped episodes on sexual abuse. I tried and tried and tried to get the message across to people that sexual abuse is not just abuse—it is also sexual seduction. There are also accusations that Reed created this film and Robson, and Safechuck participated because they're after money and fame.
And both men clarified that they decided to take part in the documentary because they want to help victims like themselves. In fact, in the documentary, Safechuck reveals that he only finally came to terms with his own abuse—and opened up to his wife about it—after seeing an interview Robson did about his experience with Jackson on The Today Show in Robson told Oprah of his decision to speak out: "If anything that I say is going to help any other survivors, then I should be able to speak the truth. If, like me, you are still on the fence about what to believe or what not to believe—or even whether or not you want to watch this film— I can tell you this with percent certainty: Watching both Robson and Safechuck's faces as they recollect what allegedly happened to them, both in Leaving Neverland and during Oprah's interview, there is not a single doubt in my mind that these men are telling the truth.
In my opinion, there is no manufacturing that kind of hurt and pain.
These are not men who are fame hungry, or chasing money, or seeking to bring down a dead man. These are victims whose lives were forever ruined by a troubled, sick person who had the access and power to manipulate them for decades, even after his death—because he was larger than life. And that is something that is happening every single day in this country at the hands of far less powerful people. These are victims whose lives were ruined by a troubled, sick person who had the power to manipulate.
Leaving Neverland and Oprah's interview helped me come to terms with the fact that by continuing to defend Michael Jackson in the name of his talent, I was contributing to our society's habit of victim shaming. It physically pains me to think about forever parting ways with "The Way You Make Me Feel," the one song that can cheer me up on even my worst days, or the fact that I will never again get to witness the way an MJ classic brings everyone together at a family party.
I have loved Michael Jackson the artist for several decades. But in this case, there is no separating the artist from the man. There is no song, album, or memory that is worth discrediting what happened to a seven year old little boy who was so young when he was being touched sexually, he worried that his abuser would turn into the werewolf from "Thriller. For more stories from OprahMag. Your Best Life. Type keyword s to search. Bennett Raglin. You may be able to find the same content in another format, or you may be able to find more information, at their web site.
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